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00:00:09: Everybody this is bitch breathes and my name is ricardia so happy you're joining me for our new episode.

00:00:17: Today I want to talk about one of those things that.

00:00:21: Well are ubiquitous I want to say so we're going to talk about money and in the spiritual realm in the mainstream.

00:00:31: Sort of Wall Street Round there's all sorts of beliefs and I wanna say even myths or Tendencies about money

00:00:41: and you know whether you grew up in a religious background or an agnostic or just completely absent of spirituality everyone has their ideas about money

00:00:52: and so me I grew up in a Christian household so I remember this story in the Bible if I can

00:00:59: paraphrase heavily because I haven't read a Bible in many many years but there's this Parable I Think Jesus tells the story or if somebody important in the Bible does that a rich guy.

00:01:11: Has as much of a chance of getting to Heaven as a camel has a fitting through the eye of a needle.

00:01:19: So already there's this limitation right you can't go to heaven you can't be a good person you won't be seeing Jesus.

00:01:27: Or whoever your God got us is on the other side if you are materially rich.

00:01:33: I'm sure there are many interpretations to what this person I'm guessing it must be Jesus because it sounds like him said but that was sort of my interpretation that I walked away with as a child.

00:01:46: And then there's this other idiom I'm not even sure it exists in English because I first heard it in German but I'm going to go ahead and translate it and that idiom is if you want to know what God thinks of money take a look at whom he gives it to.

00:02:02: So again basically this negative connotation of rich people are intentionally bad.

00:02:08: And I'll get back to that one in a minute because it's huge on my radar but I just wanted to point out just how many beliefs and stories we have around money who earned it who deserves it who doesn't why is it there how did we get here in the first

00:02:23: place so you could probably have 10 episodes a hundred episodes about this and you would still not be dumb.

00:02:30: But today I want to talk about it a little bit in the spiritual context

00:02:34: of energy and what it is that we believe around this what we call Energy the money so that's why this episode is called Get Rich or Die spiritual

00:02:44: should have put a question mark behind that one because we're going to look at it so the first thing that I sort of.

00:02:51: I thought about when I was starting to put together my ideas for the episode was.

00:02:56: This whole either or Illusion right you you're either rich or a good person you either know how to do business or you're a total loser or you either go and work in an NGO and never have money or you work,

00:03:10: in the free market and have an actual chance at being rich but depending on what the decision is you make.

00:03:17: You've already bought into a whole realm of ideas around it and limiting beliefs as we like to refer to them and,

00:03:25: Illusions even

00:03:27: so this whole dichotomy of either or already feels so fake and so wrong because let's face it when you really look at nature

00:03:36: or natural cycles of life like how things develop it's not always an either or it can be at times of course

00:03:44: but I think the either always has the potential for the or.

00:03:48: Meaning the other scenario and the or has the potential for either meaning each of them contains the other and in the spiritual Traditions even if we're not.

00:04:01: In a Chinese spiritual tradition we often talk about the yin and yang of things and that emblem that,

00:04:07: that signifies where you know it's this black and white circle of waves they look like teardrops maybe even and each of those teardrops contains the color of the other

00:04:17: so this whole idea of either or I find is like one of the major,

00:04:23: sort of Boulders that stand in our way of being able to receive a holistic experience.

00:04:30: And receiving the whole spectrum of Life which can also mean abundance

00:04:35: what we like to call abundance and spirituality because we're so afraid of the word money but we'll get to that one later to so cleaning up with the either or Illusion for me has been one of the first

00:04:47: steps.

00:04:48: A second one this is something I didn't actually notice until many years after the experience so I've been really poor as a child I've lived very comfortably.

00:04:59: And then I usually mostly still now wing it in between freelance and part-time work right and sort of live in an okay lifestyle.

00:05:08: But when I was growing up we were

00:05:11: really not very wealthy at all we lived in a really small apartment my mom was a single mom and I was you know Growing Up In This Very working-class neighborhood first in England and then in Germany

00:05:25: and then I got a scholarship to this boarding school and this boarding school.

00:05:31: I often say that the longest trip I've ever taken in my life was the train ride from my home in a very working-class coal mining town in Germany

00:05:42: to the south of Germany which is like hello it's like this whole other world they're right and that's where the boarding school was located and people were,

00:05:51: rich I mean not just

00:05:53: well off not just they got the little house somewhere no they were very very wealthy they belong to some of the wealthiest people

00:06:02: on the continent they still do and I often noticed a lot of things about them I could do a whole nother story just on that school or 10 but

00:06:11: there's one thing I really admired about them and I still do to this day is that something about very wealthy people especially if the wealth has been carried on through several generations and.

00:06:24: It took me a while to realize what it was is it just confidence is that that is it that they have this Head Start that they can go to all the great colleges you know it's like

00:06:33: Harvard University

00:06:34: who cares will get you in we don't have Legacy there let's just buy them something I don't know if that if that's how Harvard works but it might in my mind said it did or it does.

00:06:45: Back then but what I'm trying to get at is it's not that it's that there was no doubt that they.

00:06:53: Deserve this wealth there was no doubt that their parents or their family or whoever had earned this standard of living and whether it's true on a moral level I'm.

00:07:06: Obviously not qualified to judge that I don't know that and I don't know what they have coming or what they don't but I.

00:07:14: Like the idea of not having doubt that you deserve where you are right now.

00:07:19: Right and I don't mean this in a negative sense like if you are poor then you deserve to be there that's not what I mean I mean operating from a consciousness of yes it's absolutely okay to be this wealthy person.

00:07:31: I know that that is not always easy for all of us I know it's not for me.

00:07:37: And we'll get to that in a couple of steps but for the moment just injecting this idea.

00:07:46: That this is absolutely as it should be if you're wealthy right now then that is that is absolutely where it should be you have no doubt we can talk about the other part later but I loved this energy.

00:07:58: Another thing I was thinking about.

00:08:01: Is all the spiritual traditions and what their stance on money is and for many of them at least for my interpretation and maybe I don't know enough but a lot of times I felt like poverty was almost elevated to a state of nobility

00:08:15: so not having enough not wanting to much for yourself was a noble thing

00:08:22: and I remember the longer I was learning yoga and teaching yoga and reading all this thing's.

00:08:28: And the more I thought about my childhood were also again the true Christianity thing poverty is Noble I thought what the hell is that all about like why why do I have to suffer in what kind of world.

00:08:40: Or you know metaphysical world does God got us want me to be poor.

00:08:46: And how is that alone a noble thing because let me tell you I've met plenty of poor people who are not very Noble at all who are not nice people

00:08:55: who are miserable where they are by the way not just because they're poor but maybe also and who aren't just genuinely people you want to be around

00:09:03: so if that is true.

00:09:06: Then the opposite must be true to that you can be very wealthy and a kind person there has to be a way for that I refuse to think that

00:09:17: these two things mutually exclude each other and So speaking of one of these traditions.

00:09:23: Kabbalah for example where I looked into this kind of concept because they talked about it a lot and what I loved about them is that they thought listen.

00:09:33: If wealth is what you want you need to build a vessel

00:09:37: that is big enough to hold all that abundance you want but what they add to that which is really really a nice thought and maybe it's something for you maybe it isn't is that you do however share.

00:09:49: What it is that you're earning right that doesn't mean give away all your stuff again the poverty nobbled nobility thing no but it means to keep what they call a circuitry going.

00:10:00: So the more you earn the bigger that vessel becomes the more you receive what is coming to you the more you are invited to share that because that's what will keep the circuitry going.

00:10:13: I thought that was a really nice idea especially for those of us who might struggle with being wealthy because we think it's not so cool and it's not fair

00:10:22: what about being wealthy and sharing and keeping this circuitry going

00:10:26: especially when we think of money in terms of energy maybe that's a nice little way to go about having a lot of abundance.

00:10:36: In tandem with what I said I want to get to my next point and that is the false humility.

00:10:44: Around money and I have to say I mostly find this in women maybe men struggle with this as much it just doesn't seem as visible to me,

00:10:53: but this whole idea that oh I don't need anything no I don't want that or it's like.

00:11:00: What why why aren't you asking for these things do you think

00:11:05: at the end of the day again there's a reward or a medal because you didn't ask for what you actually when you really ask yourself truly deserve.

00:11:16: I'm not talking Gucci bags are Fendi bags maybe that's your thing there's nothing wrong with that I'm not here to say what it is we buy with our money and what not I mean the idea that we as women specifically as women for go.

00:11:32: Rights and privileges all by ourselves we were taught,

00:11:37: to be that maybe to sort of you know put ourselves in the background for the family you know raise those children be that rock behind our husbands or spouses whatever that is that Antiquated notion that I do however still find its alive and kicking in 2021 and if that's your if that's your

00:11:55: gig totally go for it but if you're playing false humility,

00:12:00: if your playing small because you think it's the right thing to do you already not operating from a place of authenticity right you already sending out mixed signals to the universe because really to be honest,

00:12:13: I would love to be so

00:12:15: wealthy that I could have my personal yoga teacher every day more actually since I'm Dreaming right now I want someone who cooks for me I want someone who comes in every day or 3 days a week and prepares all my healthy meals for my family and.

00:12:30: Maybe for you it's something else but that's what I want

00:12:34: that's what I want and I used to be so afraid of saying that because I come on girl you have everything you've got food sex and shelter as my Irish friend used to say you know don't ask for more because if you ask for more

00:12:47: you're being greedy and God will not look kindly upon you wanting all that stuff.

00:12:52: I don't think so I really don't and I'm hoping that by saying this out loud.

00:12:58: To you that maybe if this is something you also share this what I think is an illusion that you also find spaces for yourself to allow yourself.

00:13:07: To not be so falsely humble when the situation isn't really calling for it,

00:13:15: my next point this one we might all be a little familiar with so there's nothing inherently dirty or vulgar about money.

00:13:25: But I would have disagreed with you.

00:13:29: About that for the longest of times I look at the very very richest people on this planet and I'm like what the fuck,

00:13:37: what is going on here how in the world is it okay for a Jeff besos,

00:13:45: to earn even more money during Corona while everybody's out of everybody else's life is going a hell no one knows what's happening and this guy is earning more money sometimes I sat there and I would

00:13:58: discusses with my son-in-law because he.

00:14:02: Would bring it up and think how unfair it was nigh I have to agree I'm like man this is just 10 times of shitty and like how is that even cool

00:14:11: so that is one thing and that's definitely something we have to ask ourselves and definitely look at how is there a way to create more Justice and.

00:14:20: Actionable steps towards equality.

00:14:23: This you know listen to my last podcast if you're my last episode if you like on on women's day where I talk a little bit about this subject.

00:14:31: But I'm not going to actually get into it just now.

00:14:35: Because I just want to say that yes there are people where we're just like this can't be happening they can't be running the search money that's disgusting and blah blah blah but the money itself that's the point I want to make.

00:14:48: Does not have to be this vulgar and primitive energy or deal maker or you know Dirty Little Secret that we have money itself

00:15:01: per agreement which how fantastically crazy that is a whole nother subject but per agreement it's something we exchange

00:15:09: for goods and services for Things We Believe have value have this much value 5 bucks 10 bucks whatever it is a thousand right but inherently even though it's a crazy agreement we've made

00:15:22: it's not a dirty thing so just to sort of get that in our head in the spiritual realm I'm talking specifically now is that just because you teach people.

00:15:32: About their emotions because you help them heal themselves maybe even if it really goes that far if you are able to guide them through

00:15:41: a process doesn't even have to be suffering maybe they just want to get to their next spiritual level it doesn't mean you don't have to ask for money.

00:15:50: Right money itself is not dirty it's just something that as a world we agreed upon and you got to pay your rent come on you got to raise your children you got bills to pay you need money.

00:16:01: So let's get rid of this idea that the money itself as an energy is contaminated.

00:16:08: And around that there's a lot of semantics like I just said money is energy and you know we can call it energy or pricing or fees or whatever it is that we refer to this energy as if you're afraid

00:16:23: of naming your value then you need to return to the drawing board and ask yourself what would you pay for you.

00:16:33: This one I'm going to be very honest I still struggle with.

00:16:37: I have an incredibly hard time trying to figure out what the services and goods I provide are worth.

00:16:45: Maybe I take money to personally like whatever it is you're paying me that means that that is how much you appreciate me and there is some truth to that but mainly I just struggle to find a price.

00:16:55: It's like whoa what is that worth.

00:16:58: But I found if I use this little guide of what would I have paid in this situation to another person.

00:17:06: To help me out here to guide me through something to teach me.

00:17:11: Or like I said before what would you pay for you.

00:17:16: Sort of stepping outside of you for a moment and looking at the kind of service you provide if you are a coach for example and you help people

00:17:27: with their business and you really get them to the next level they're going to be very successful and very grateful so.

00:17:35: Look at that and see what can your price be now I'm not talking about these crazy coaches we're asking for like I don't know

00:17:41: six digit numbers and then you're all pumped and hyped up for the weekend and then Monday comes around you like yes that was a great investment I'm so going to be like taking this shit to the next level

00:17:51: Tuesday rolls around you kept about two tools of that Workshop by the time Wednesday rolls around you like wait while coaching.

00:17:56: I don't mean those I mean really looking at the substance of what it is that you provide that you bring.

00:18:03: And then trying to find a price around that and I'm sure there are friends in your circle of of people or maybe there's a coach or whatever it is who can help you with that but do make an effort.

00:18:16: To establish what your value is alrighty last one I picked up this little phrase the other day I don't know I was listening to some sort of podcast

00:18:25: no I was on clubhouse and this person said well you either brand or you get branded so brand or be branded was her claim and even though that's a very typical little marketing speak thing,

00:18:38: I thought I liked that because you can transfer it to.

00:18:43: What we're talking about now which is evaluate yourself or be evaluated right so taking the helm here of our own life of our own financial situation and deciding.

00:18:55: That we want to call the shots on what our pricing or our value is now.

00:19:03: Before this gets to coach your Market e speak with the value and the price and stuff and all the talk that's going on about that I want to say one last thing.

00:19:12: And that is that whatever it is you decide to do that it not come from

00:19:17: this sort of idea that you have to make money right like money is the thing I need money like so you're not operating from a place of scarcity you're not just focusing on money as money but that were operating from a consciousness of.

00:19:31: What is it I truly believe is fair and is Justified for me.

00:19:37: Right or whatever whatever it is so that you're operating from a point of authenticity I guess that's what I'm trying to say versus you know.

00:19:44: Just making money by all means or getting fixated on this idea of,

00:19:49: this coaches are learning so much so I should probably be earning this stepping away from all this like busy White Noise around money money money

00:19:58: I'm really going inside finding that quiet moment and understanding and appreciating who you are and what it is you bring to the table.

00:20:08: All right,

00:20:10: money money money money that was the Get Rich or Die spiritual so as you can see my answer is not either or it's not get rich or die spiritual it's maybe,

00:20:23: get rich and also share I think that would be my in Germany they have of Watson's on Tak my my word of the day I hope you're well I hope your abundant I hope you're rich and you share and you feel good about it.

00:20:37: And if not that we're all on our way to getting there.

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